What is a normie, you ask? Well, a normie is an individual who can order a beer, not finish it and walk away without a second thought. For some of us, walking away from an unfinished alcoholic beverage would be a cardinal sin. Those of us that think along those lines are anything but normal, and far from being normies.
We all know and love normies. They’re everywhere you go: work, school, restaurants, and possibly even in your own home. Normies are wonderful, they give us a barometer of how off the scale our drinking or using has become. In all seriousness, no matter how wonderful they are, we will never be like them, nor should we ever try. Time and time again, we attempt to drink or use as a normal person would and it never turns out well. More times than not, we’ve envied them and maybe even lashed out because what happens to us doesn’t happen to them, and we just don’t get it.
When we get sober, we start to get it. Treatment teaches us about the disease of addiction, and it gives us the tools to better manage it and our lives as a whole. Unlike normies, we have to learn life skills, sometimes late in adulthood, just to survive. Normies don’t have to tell their doctors that they can’t have the fun pills, they don’t have to explain to party goers that they break out in handcuffs when they drink, and they don’t have to fellowship with other addicts and alcoholics just to stay alive. We have to do these things (except the handcuffs part, you can tell them whatever you want), but the thing is, we get to.
We get to start a new life, and part of that is choosing who we want to spend this new life with. Old “friends” who loved drinking and using as much as we did may fall to the wayside, and if they don’t, you should consider putting them there. We get to make new friends, and some of the people you meet in recovery will become your tribe. Sure, you’ll have friends that are normies, but take care with whom you spend the most time. The saying, “you are who you hang out with” doesn’t ring true here. You will never be a normie. If you only hang out with that crowd, your brain will begin tricking you into thinking that you can have “just one.”
That “just one” could be your last, or it could be the first in a long line of pure misery. If you’ve tried to control your drinking or drugging like a normal person without success, give us a call. At The Lakehouse Recovery Center, our admission specialists are available 24/7, toll-free at (877) SOBER | (877) 762-3707. We can show you a new way to live, free from drugs and alcohol. Your life is worth saving because you matter. You too, can get sober.