Vacating Your Old Life and Moving into Sobriety

Sobriety |

The title of this article uses the analogy of moving into a new home. When you live somewhere you get used to the details of your home. For instance you get used to the way the wood floor creaks in certain places. Or you might get used to the way the windows get stuck when you’re trying to close them at night. When you live somewhere you get used to the details of your home. And when you move, there’s a lot to adjust to. There’s a lot to become accustomed to. In fact, there might be details about your new home that you might not have noticed the first time you visited. This kind of experience can be applied to getting sober.

Adjusting to a New Life

Essentially, when a person is addicted to drugs or alcohol, he or she is used to particular details of life, even though some of those details are challenging. When a person gets sober, there’s a new life to get used to. For example, a person might have to get used to relying upon healthy coping tools to take the place of drugs or alcohol. One of the most common ways that an addiction develops for someone is because they consistently turn to drugs and alcohol when they become stressed. However, when a person is sober, he or she is going to have to get used to using another method of managing stressful moments in life. For someone who is overcoming an addiction, that small act of turning to drugs and drinking when feeling stressed is the very thing that needs to change. Just like you will no longer hear the creaking of the wood in your old home when you move, replacing new and healthy coping tools for the unhealthy ones is the change that you’ll experience with sobriety.

Changing Your Relationships

Another small detail that may come with moving into sobriety is changing the way you are in relationships. Perhaps previously you were more aggressive, dishonest, manipulative, or insensitive. However, being sober can facilitate a change in interpersonal relationships. You might recognize the importance of honesty, especially if you’ve previously noticed how denial played a destructive role in your addiction. You might also recognize the importance of expressing your needs in a relationship versus staying to yourself and trying to meet your need through drug use.

Perhaps it’s obvious that when you get sober the details of your life will change. You might not realize initially how your life will change. However, once you’re sober and you have been free of drugs and alcohol for a good period of time, you may notice yourself living in a new sober life. You may notice your life is entirely different. And most recovering addicts are pleased with this change. In fact, most men and women who are sober welcome the positive changes that sobriety brings.

If you or someone you know is struggling with an addiction, take the first step towards sobriety by contacting a mental health professional today.


Messages sent through this form are confidential. Required fields are marked with (*).

  • This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.