Telling on Yourself

Honesty is and always has been the best policy. In addiction, we don’t necessarily adhere to this rule, and changing our behavior in recovery takes some time and practice. Learning to tell on ourselves is a huge factor in keeping us accountable, not only to others but to ourselves and our personal truth.

Dishonesty in addiction is akin to survival. We lie, cheat, and steal to keep our disease happy, regardless of the consequences. In recovery, we do the opposite because honesty keeps us clean and sober. If you are feeling antsy, and really wanting to drink or use, you should tell someone (preferably in recovery) about it immediately. The addict mind is not a safe neighborhood to venture alone, and the more we air it out, the better off we are in the long run.

Another skill we learn in recovery is keeping our side of the street clean. This simply means that if we are honest and do the right thing, it doesn’t matter what the other person’s side of the street looks like, as long as ours is cleaned up. If you did something wrong or hurtful to another person, own it and do what you can to make it right. Practicing these skills on a daily basis not only strengthens our recovery, but lets us sleep a little easier at night, too.

Telling on yourself isn’t meant to be a negative connotation with negative consequences. Rather, it is meant to keep us accountable to others. For instance, if you are in a 12 step program, maybe you don’t feel like going to meetings anymore. This is definitely something you should share with your group. Once people know how you feel, your secret is out in the open and people will be more than happy to help you get back in touch with your recovery (or come find you if you go missing).

Staying clean and sober is all about finding the right balance. If you’re wrong, admit it and move on without dwelling on the past. We are all human, but when the disease of addiction is part of you, the price of dishonesty is higher. The last thing an addict or alcoholic needs to deal with is secrets. Secrets keep us sick, and the more you tell on yourself, the healthier you will stay. If you are struggling with addiction, please call us. We can help you transition safely and comfortably into recovery, and there is no better time to do so than the present.




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