I’m Sober Now, Why Doesn’t Anyone Trust Me?

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Gaining Trust After An Addiction

Addiction has a funny way of making everyone around us trust our words just about as much as anyone would trust a thief in a jewelry store. As addicts and alcoholics, we lie left and right to keep our addiction going. We might not even know what the truth is anymore. The disease of addiction is deceptive, and dishonest is one of many ways it keeps itself going. The people we care about eventually catch on to our deceptive ways, and in their minds, anything that comes out of our mouths can’t be trusted, even in early sobriety.

Tell The Truth and Build Trust

When we get clean and sober, our lives begin to change. We feel better, we start taking suggestions from people in recovery, and we start telling the truth. The truth might not always be the easiest to tell, but it is a shortcut. Lying only spins us further into sickness; more lies are needed to cover the other lies, it just turns into a mess. When we start telling the truth, be start building a truthful record, just like our lies built themselves a lying record.

The important part of telling the truth, is doing what you say you’ll do. If you tell your mom you’ll have her car back to her by noon, you better have it back by 11:45 am. You suit up and show up, whether you like it or not.

The more your words match your actions, the more trust you build. Just like your addiction didn’t happen overnight, trust isn’t instant oatmeal, either. If you can put yourself in other people’s shoes, and understand why they don’t have full faith in you yet, it makes it a little easier on yourself.

It can feel hurtful, because you’re trying your hardest to stay sober, but don’t take it personally, it happens to the best of us. Just be gentle on yourself, keep doing the right thing, and their trust will come.

 

 

If you’re not yet sober, but want to be, give us a call. You’re not alone, and you don’t have to hide and lie about your disease any longer. If you come to The LakeHouse Recovery Center, you have the opportunity to get well and turn your life around. Treatment is the first step toward regaining your family’s trust, and we will help you every step of the way. Recovery is possible, and your journey can begin today. You can do this, all you need to do is be willing to get sober, and pick up the phone. Don’t put your life on hold, call today. We are available 24/7, toll-free at (877) SOBER | (877) 762-3707.