It is Normal to Fear Rejection
Most people experience the fear of rejection at one point or another in their lives. Addicts and alcoholics are no different, except for the fact that if this fear holds one back from getting sober, it could be deadly. In our addiction, we become so consumed with our identity revolving around drugs or alcohol, that we think no one will like us if that is taken away. What we don’t realize at the time, is that if anyone actually feels that way, losing them as friends would be good riddance.
No one has the right to judge you or anyone else for that matter. If someone raises a stink about you not drinking or using, it’s not uncommon for them to have a problem themselves. Healthy, stable people would support your decision to not drink or use, and wouldn’t think twice about it.
Others who drink or use a lot themselves, might feel a little uncomfortable around you not because you’re not drinking, but because your decision abstain may trigger them look at their own drinking/using habits.
Recovery is Important
If we want to get sober and stay that way, we have to learn to let go and stop caring about what others think of us. Recovery is about the journey we take together, and talking about our struggles helps us stay the course. You have to ask yourself if losing a friend who dislikes your choice to live a healthy life is really worth keeping.
If you are frightened of sobriety because you think you won’t have friends, think again. Yes, there is some work, like attending social gatherings, support groups, self-help meetings, etc., but it will all pay off.
Surround yourself with people who truly care about you, not just about you joining them for happy hour. Step out of your box and reach out to others; when they give you phone numbers, call them, no matter how uncomfortable you feel. These are the growing pains of sobriety, and everyone who is successful in their recovery has taken the same steps, too.
Let go of your fear of rejection, and begin your new life today. Give us a call, we will help you transition into recovery safely and comfortably. Don’t put yourself on hold any longer, call us today, and start feeling better tomorrow.
The Lakehouse Recovery Center offers private, residential care. Our program brings together recovery and non recovery focused treatments to help clients heal and learn how to live life again, without drugs and alcohol. Call us today for information: 877.762.3707